Handbook for the Third Millennium
by Ron Smothermon, M.D.

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“Life comes complete with glitzy distractions, each proclaiming its own ultimate importance. All of these things are visible and the ultimate meaning of life is invisible. The ultimate meaning of life is experience, the experience of love.”

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About the Author

Ron Smothermon, M.D.

Ron Smothermon is a medical school graduate and full time practicing physician. He has authored six books in the area of personal transformation and offers the Man Woman Training which has around 10,000 graduates in the U.S., Canada, Australia, England, Germany, Austria, Switzerland, and Russia.

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Chapter Two
FATHER

Your father loved you, in his heart, exactly as your mother loved you. His expression of his love was filtered through his man-ness making his love hard for a child to experience as love.
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Your relationship with authority has its origin in your relationship with the first person who laid down the law to you and backed it up with consequences which you definitely wanted to avoid. This is my definition for the word father: that individual who laid down the ground rules of life and backed them up with consequences with which you could not live.

For most this person will have been the biological father, however this could also have been a step-father, older brother or sister, or teacher. Even mother can be father by this definition just as father can be mother by definition: the primary caretaker in the earliest years of life.

Whoever this was for you, if you do not exist in the world in the experience of true equality, here is what happened: you withdrew yourself as a living acknowledgement of your Father’s love for you and went into a power strugglewith him. This power struggle has its origin in the function of the mind which is to survive by dominating and avoiding domination.

Then, for the rest of your life, whenever you are confronted with authority, you project all the patterns of struggle you created in relationship to your Father and thus you react to all authority as if it were your Father.

It does not begin this way, of course, it begins with the admiration and respect for your Father. To avoid domination you begin to oppose your Father at whatever level you think you can get away with. The opposition to father has its roots in the blame father takes for the family not working the way you visualize that it should work. When father is blamed it makes plenty of sense to a child to resolve to become the opposite of father. This is the root cause of opposition to father.

The form of your opposition to father is bent like a beam of light through the lens of your personality. If your basic personality movement is against others then your opposition looks like full-blown rebellion. If your basic personality movement is with others you will treat your Father well and simply think the most evil thoughts about him. If your basic movement is away from others your opposition will look like withdrawal and avoidance – you do your best not to think about him.

The journey home is a return to the condition of admiration and respect for your Father with recognition and acknowledgment of your Father’s absolute love for you. Reading this does not make it so for you, and you may now be saying to yourself, “No way, I am an exception, my Father, in reality did not love me.” It looks that way because your Father is an expression pf patrism as you yourself are an expression of patrism. Love expressed through the distorting lens of patrism is difficult to experience as love.

Or you may be saying to yourself, “I am an exception, I know that my Father loves me and I am on good terms with him.” That may be and it also may be a defense you have. It may not be exactly accurate, and if it is accurate you may well be incomplete with authority anyway because it has become the abstract social model in which people live to have evil thoughts about others in authority, and to not support those who appear to be in authority.

Here is the way home: I promise to fuse my identity with the idea that all expressions of love. Once again, there can be no exceptions. You cannot attach to the end of the promise the phrase, “except for the expressions of my Father” or “except for the way strangers treat me.”

Table of Contents

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION ................................................. 10

Section I: THE METAPHYSICS OF UNITY .......................... 11

Chapter One: THE SENSES ...................................... 13
Chapter Two: WHAT? HOW LARGE? WHERE? WHEN? ................... 17
Chapter Three: METHODS OF PERCEPTION ......................... 22
Chapter Four: PHYSICAL REALITY ............................... 28
Chapter Five: PIERCING THE VEIL .............................. 33
Chapter Six: THE BEGINNING ................................... 37
Chapter Seven: CREATIVE POTENTIAL AS IDENTITY ................ 42
Chapter Eight: CREATION AS A FUNCTION OF OBSERVATION ......... 46
Chapter Nine: THE BEING - AN ABILITY OF THE SOUL ............. 50
Chapter Ten: IDENTIFICATION WITH THE BODY .................... 53
Chapter Eleven: ABSTRACTION .................................. 57
Chapter Twelve: THE PROMISE .................................. 61

Section II: THE CREATION OF SEPARATION ....................... 67

Chapter One: THE MIND ........................................ 69
Chapter Two: CREATION OF PERSONALITY ......................... 73
Chapter Three: COMPULSIVE COMPLIANCE ......................... 77
Chapter Four: COMPULSIVE OPPOSITION .......................... 81
Chapter Five: COMPULSIVE WITHDRAWAL .......................... 85
Chapter Six: THE PARANOID REALITY ............................ 90
Chapter Seven: PAIN .......................................... 94
Chapter Eight: EGOING ....................................... 101
Chapter Nine: THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS ........................ 108
Chapter Ten: THE MANIAC ..................................... 112

Section III: ADDICTION -ATTEMPTS TO TREAT THE PAIN .......... 119

Chapter One: ADDICTION TO RELATIONSHIP ...................... 121
Chapter Two: ADDICTION TO DISTRACTION ....................... 127
Chapter Three: ADDICTION TO TOUGHNESS AD RIGHTNESS .......... 130
Chapter Four: ADDICTION TO LEGAL CHEMICALS .................. 133
Chapter Five: ADDICTION TO ILLEGAL CHEMICALS ................ 138
Chapter Six: A WAR ON DRUGS - MORE FALSE CAUSE .............. 142

Section IV: KILLING CONSCIOUSNESS P ORIGIN OF THE PAIN ...... 149

Chapter One: THE POSSIBILITIES .............................. 151
Chapter Two: MOVEMENT EASTWARD .............................. 154
Chapter Three: MOVEMENT WESTWARD, MEETING IN THE MIDDLE ..... 159
Chapter Four: REVERTING TO NATURALISM ....................... 163

Section V: LOVE -THE ONLY LASTING SOLUTION TO PRIMAL PAIN ... 174

Chapter One: THE PURPOSE OF LIFE ............................ 176
Chapter Two: ARRIVAL ........................................ 180
Chapter Three: THE IN-VOGUE MODEL OF LOVE ................... 185
Chapter Four: THE NATURE OF LOVE ............................ 193
Chapter Five: THE STAND FOR LOVE ............................ 193
Chapter Six: INTIMACY ....................................... 198
Chapter Seven: LOOSING THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING LOVED ........ 201
Chapter Eight: THE PRICE AND THE WAY HOME ................... 207


Section VI: RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WORLD ..................... 217

Chapter One: AUTHORITY ...................................... 219
Chapter Two: FATHER ......................................... 223
Chapter Three: GOD AND PARENTS .............................. 227
Chapter Four: RELEASING YOUR PARENTS ........................ 231
Chapter Five: FATE AND DESTINY .............................. 236

Section VII: RENEWAL OF THE SPIRIT .......................... 246

Chapter One: LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS ........................ 248
Chapter Two: GIVING UP FOREVER ALL CLAIM FOR REVENGE ........ 253
Chapter Three: KINDNESS ..................................... 257
Chapter Four: LOYALTY ....................................... 261
Chapter Five: HONESTY ....................................... 264
Chapter Six: RELIABILITY .................................... 267
Chapter Seven: SELF RESPECT ................................. 271
Chapter Eight: ACKNOWLEDGMENT ............................... 274
Chapter Nine: INSTANT KARMA ................................. 278
Chapter Ten: THE BODY ....................................... 283
Chapter Eleven: MONEY ....................................... 287
Chapter Twelve: SHARING VALUE ............................... 291
Chapter Thirteen: FAILURE AND PHYSICAL DISABILITIES ......... 294
Chapter Fourteen: THE FINAL 20 MINUTES ...................... 299
Chapter Fifteen: THE NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE .................. 302
Chapter Sixteen: MAKING A DIFFERENCE ........................ 306

Acknowledgments ............................................. 310

Glossary ..................................................... 311

Index ........................................................ 341